Unfortunately, life is not a bed of roses. We are going through life facing sad experiences. Moreover, we are grieving various kinds of loss: friendship, a romantic relationship or a house. Hard times may hold you down at what usually seems like the most inopportune time, but you should remember that they won’t last forever.
When our time of mourning is over, we press forward, stronger with a greater understanding and respect for life. Furthermore, these losses make us mature and eventually move us toward future opportunities for growth and happiness.
Shaun Hick once said, “You need to spend time crawling alone through shadows to appreciate truly what it is stand in the sun.” I want to share these ten old truths I’ve learned along the way.
1. The power of mindset
A positive mindset can help people overcome hard times. The main point is to get rid of negative clouds in your mind and start looking at the positive things. This way, you will accomplish things and boost your self-esteem and self-confidence.
A clear and positive mindset gives you a chance to work your way around obstacles before they can break your power of will. If you replace your negative emotions by positive thoughts, you will change your reality.
2. Pain is a significant part of life
As cruel as it may seem, pain is a necessary part of life that makes us human. Pain comes from many sources and it usually hits us when we have been at our most vulnerable. It usually does two things – it teaches you to become wiser and tells you that you are alive. I think there’s no need to avoid it because it can only drive you away. Suffering comes from your desire that the pain should not be there.
It seems the fear of pain is bigger than the experience of pain. To be free of pain you are to take it for granted and try to find positive moments. By the way, pain can be a part of loving. If you have never been hurt, you will never know that you have love at all.
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3. Most of your fears are unreal
Fear is both useful and harmful. This normal human reaction is used to protect us by signaling danger and preparing us to deal with it. Unfortunately, people create inner barriers with a help of exaggerating fears. My favorite actor Will Smith once said, “Fear is not real. It is a product of thoughts you create. Do not misunderstand me. The danger is very real. But fear is a choice.” I do completely agree that fears are just the product of our luxuriant imagination.
4. Don’t fear responsibility for your life
The price of happiness is responsibility. It’s better to realize that your happiness isn’t the responsibility of other people. Taking personal responsibility means not blaming others for your failures and unhappiness. Your success and happiness depend more on your attitude than it does objective, external circumstances. You should understand that happiness is ultimately in your mind. If you adopt the surrender mindset and have faith in a happy future, you will certainly reach your goals.
5. Think about present moment
If you are surrounded by problems and cannot stop thinking about the past, try to focus on the present moment. Many of us are weighed down by the past or anxious about the future. You may feel guilt over your past, but you are poisoning the present with the things and circumstances you cannot change.
Value the present moment and remember how fortunate you are to be alive. Enjoy the beauty of the world around and keep the eyes open to see the possibilities before you. Happiness is not a point of future and not a moment from the past, but a mindset that can be designed into the present.
6. Experience helps you grow
All people usually grow through experience if they treat it courageously. Try not to ask yourself questions that perpetuate your role as a victim, because it will prolong your feelings and helplessness. One of the most important parts of living and growing up is experiencing unexpected troubles in life. People often sick, lose jobs and face critical situations.
These circumstances in life bring more automatic maturity as a sort of forced growing up mentality. The pain that you feel when something goes wrong teaches you where you are just now and who you are in that moment. Good or bad experiences are a gateway to deeper level of self-awareness.
7. There are many things to be grateful for
Sometimes it is easy to feel bad because you are going through tough times. You can be easily caught up by life problems that you forget to pause and appreciate the things you have. Only strong people prefer to smile and value their life instead of crying and complaining about something.
It is desirable to stop comparing yourself to others and wishing to be someone you are not. Every individual has their strengths and weaknesses. If you accept everything you have, you will truly find the fulfillment you seek.
8. You are not alone
No matter how isolated you might feel and how serious the situation is, you should always remember that you are not alone. Try to keep in mind that almost everyone respects and wants to help you if you are trying to make a good change in your life, especially your dearest and nearest people.
You may have a circle of friends who provide constant good humor, help, and companionship. If you have no friends or relatives, try to participate in several online communities, full of people who are always willing to share advice and encouragement.
9. Pave your own unique path
Today many people find it difficult to trust their opinion and seek balance by gaining objectivity from external sources. This way you devalue your opinion and show that you are incapable of managing your life. When you are struggling to achieve something important you should believe in yourself and be sure that your decision is the best. You live in your skin, think your thoughts, have your values and make your choices.
I hope this article will help you overcome hard times in a short period. No matter how hard the situation may seem, you should always remember that everything is alright in the end. If it’s not alright, then it’s not the end. What has helped you get through hard times? Do you have any other truths to keep in mind? Share your experience and ideas, please.