About 15 years ago our screens were graced by a perky-pink blonde ambition that showed us that no matter who you are, where you come from and what you look like, you can be and achieve anything you set your heart on.
Elle Woods from Legally Blonde bend and snapped her way in many hearts and showed us you do not need to be defined by a man, and you certainly do not need one to be happy and successful. So why do we still find ourselves attached to men or women who are completely toxic for us – men or women whose daily routine involves the rejection, deception and abuse of another human being?
This topic cannot simply be narrowed down to my own experience, as I am uniquely different from you. My experiences were influenced by what has happened in my life, how I perceive and act in certain situations and who I am as an individual – so are yours.
Thus, I took it upon myself to raise the question on my social media platform and with the permission of those who contributed; I will bring it to light and hope that you find the courage to follow that hopeful light that will take you from the stormy waters to a safe harbor.
However, in order to get to a place of safety we have to know that the time has come to acknowledge that there is a problem within the relationship, you have to put yourself first for once and you have to take control of your life – no matter how hard that might be. You have to start forgetting what you feel and realize what you are worth. Therefore, without further ado, here are a variety of universal reasons why we stay attached to the wrong people:
1. Rather the devil you know than the devil you don’t know
The comfort zone can often become the danger zone. If you feel that the relationship has gone stagnant and that no matter how much you put into it, it just does not seem to grow anymore, then despite how uncomfortable it might be – it is time to move on.
We can often become so lost in the routine of things that we forget that we deserve to have passion, excitement, and yes, the freshness of love each day – the relationship has to have the ability to change and grow with the different times, into something beautiful and infinitely enduring.
If not, you will always be holding onto a memento of melodious and softer days. You will spent your life looking back at a vibrant picture framed and nailed to a wall, while you have to endure the grey reality of a relationship that chose to remain fixed in one position and never setting foot in the changing times.
That’s all because you are too afraid to step out of what is familiar and safe onto something that could be so much more glorious. This brings me to the second reason I found present in many of the stories that was brought to my attention…