The fear of loneliness makes many people force themselves date and marry someone they do not like. Girls give up on their dreams, feelings and desires just to be in relationships. They do not care whether he is a lazy drinker or an abuser. The only thing that matters is that they are not lonely. If you feel like you are with a wrong person, you may be forcing yourself to love him.
1. You find excuses to break plans with him
Be it a weekend gateway or a romantic dinner, you always have tons of excuses running through your head. You try to come up with the best one to stay home and watch your favorite show or spend the whole evening with your beloved pet. When you have no excuses, you force yourself to believe you are absolutely happy with him. Are you?
2. You keep convincing yourself you love him
As someone who had been dating a wrong guy for 2 years, I know how it is easy to trick yourself into thinking you love him. Every day you try to remind yourself of his best traits and every night you convince yourself you want him, and then end up crying in the bathroom and moaning about how unhappy you are. When you love someone, you do not look for reasons and good traits, you just love him the way he is.
3. You ignore his texts and calls
When he texts and calls you, you get irritated, and you either ignore or snap at him. Your excuse is that you are busy. Now take a few seconds to answer the question: “Can you be too busy for love?” When you love him, you want to hear his voice, and you are happy to receive his emails and texts.
4. You want him to break up with you
Often, you think you would be happy if he broke up with you. You do things that you think will make him hate you and run away from you. But instead, he starts loving you even more. You feel guilty and continue forcing yourself to stay with him.
5. Sleeping with him is like a punishment
Whether you live together or not, you stop enjoying nights because you know that you have to sleep with him every day or every now and then. You stay up late pretending you must accomplish a project, or you lie about your friend’s depression and that she needs you tonight. Sex is a crucial part of a relationship, if you avoid it, maybe you are with a wrong person.
6. You do not know him well
It is not because he tells you nothing about himself. It is because you are not interested in learning more about him. When your mom or friend asks you about him, all you can say is that he is great, cool or fun, and that’s it.
7. You see no future with him
You two have been together for a while and have probably discussed some future plans, yet when you think about your own future, you do not see him in it. ‘Fake it till you make it’ is your only hope right now.
8. You hate his gifts
Be it a diamond ring or a cheap book, you do not like to receive any gifts from him. You smile and shows how happy you are, but deep inside you feel guilty. He spends his hard-earned money on you, and you are so ungrateful. The worst thing is that you do not want to buy anything for him.
Read also – 9 Signs He Is Not the Right Man for You
9. One moment you feel happy, the next moment you feel miserable
When you are fed up, you feel depressed and lost. But then you convince yourself that you have a partner so you have to feel happy because there are so many girls who are single and miserable. In reality, some single girls are a lot happier than you.
Rather than force yourself to love him, overcome your fear of loneliness, focus on yourself and keep searching your soulmate. You will never become happy with someone you do not like, no matter how good they are. Make happiness a priority. The last thing you want to regret in your 50s is spending your life with a wrong person. Think about it, if you relate to most of these signs.