Change. This word used to have nothing to do with pennies and dimes but with real alterations in our lives and ourselves. Change is a word that frightens many, intrigues a few, and is only truly grasped by a couple.
Do you wish to grab the reins of Life and bring it under control? Do you have something you want to make better but do not know where to start? Start with these seven unexpected areas in your life to make real, lasting changes, not just the spare kind.
What do you truly want out of life? Regardless of where you are in your life, there is surely something you are aiming for. Ask yourself what the ultimate goal is supposed to be? If you have a clearly defined ambition that is motivating you, this answer should come easy.
But if you got lost along the way, if your priorities got jumbled, so too has your vision of the future. Reorganize your ambitions. Make realistic goals. Outline the steps you need to do to accomplish even the easiest of goals and advance from there.
For example, if you want to lose 50 pounds by the end of the year, do not just say that repeatedly. How much do you want to lose by July? How much by January? Break things down into digestible pieces rather than throwing three portions onto your plate. No one likes biting off more than they can chew.
I really like this quote from Matthew 6:19-21, “Do not store up for yourselves treasures on Earth… For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.”
Now, this does not solely apply to spirituality. Simply put, if you invest only in financial wealth, you will never gain anything true. Money can be frittered away on silly possessions. Love, compassion, appreciation, and gratitude are things money cannot buy.
If you are hurting over losing money in an investment, struggling to take on more hours to get more, or are making risky investments in the hope of making a profit, ask yourself what you are doing this for. Is the stress worth it? No, you cannot change your budget or how much you have to spend on certain things. What you can change is just how much you truly need to feel “wealthy.”
3. Free time
I get it. Work sucks, school is boring, and the couch is just the kind of embrace we all need after a really grueling week. But is that really the wisest decision? Those reruns are not going anywhere; and if you keep watching them, neither will you. Free time does not solely mean, “Do nothing time.” Your free time should be used to develop your interests, invigorate your soul, and give you something to look forward to.
Do not just vegetate during your free time. Take on side projects, invest in supplementary learning, do group exercise classes (or teach them), volunteer, or hang out with your parents and siblings. None of these things subtract happiness from your life. None of these things cause regret or feelings of missing out.
No, you cannot change your genetics, your body shape, or even your imperfections by any natural means. In fact, one of the hardest things to change is yourself. That is why it is so vital to love yourself for who you are.
Even if you do not like yourself, learn how to tolerate yourself. See the beauty of your flaws and know that is what makes you unique. Strive to cultivate those facets of yourself, for they will become your strongest points.
5. Friends and relationships
Remind yourself that you do not have to look, think, or speak a certain way for someone else’s pleasure or satisfaction. You are responsible for your own happiness, and that happiness is born from within.
Should at any time your friends, family, and relationships turn into something closer to slavery or abuse, get out. Do not accept toxic relationships as reality. Those who care about you will show compassion and love, not hatred or manipulative tendencies. Find people who raise you up higher than the clouds and soar alongside you rather than shooting your down.
One of the greatest pieces of advice I have ever heard is to stop letting fear control me. Fear grips us in so many ways that we do not even realize until we are knee deep in it and sinking fast. Do things that scare you down to your bones.
Say ‘yes’ to experiences that challenge your mind and body. Only then can you overcome what holds you back. Though comfort zone is not happiness. The comfort zone boxes you in and sets up an electrical fence around your growth.
Do you want to feel better by tonight? Revamp your diet. People totally overlook the effect food has on their health all the time. Just because you can swallow it does not make it good for you, okay? Food can either be the strongest poison or the best medicine, but you decide which concoction you are brewing up for yourself.
Whatever ailment you have now, you have; but that does not mean giving up. Many diseases and disorders can be cured or minimized through clean, healthy diets. Simply swapping in more fruits and vegetables over processed foods like Twinkies and chips can reduce your risk of cancer, diabetes, and heart complications by more than half.
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Making changes in your life is about learning to accept what has happened in the past, doing what you can today, and making plans for the future. More than that, change means embracing everything you are and are meant to be. Do not let the past, or those tied to it, control your potential. By repairing that backwards view alone, life will take on a whole new perspective.