10 Incredible Ways to Be a Better Wife
Having a close and successful marriage is our goal when we choose the special dress, the flowers, the attendants, and the groom. However, somewhere along the way, life intervenes. In reality, “happily ever after” only happens when we actively pursue this ending. Here are ten ways you can become a better wife and enjoy the dream that you walked down the aisle to grasp.
1 Respect your husband
Men thrive on respect, but they wither when their wife does not believe in them. Respect works wonders. It even improves your attitude. Tell him you appreciate his work and his efforts around the house. Do not nag and otherwise act as his mom. Treating a man like a child is disrespectful. Finally, do not embarrass him in public by telling stories that poke fun at him. Respect your husband.
2 Be trustworthy
If you always act in a trustworthy manner, you can avoid the stress and negativity that undermines relationships. Trust is not only about cheating. People lose trust in a variety of ways.
The key to building trust is simple: be where you say you are going to be and do what you say you are going to do. Do not say you are going out for milk and come home with a haul from the mall.
3 Initiate intimacy
Although we often hear how important sex is to men, it is extremely important to both partners. Your relationship can only be strengthened by more frequent and innovative intimacy, but he’s bound to stop asking if you have a pattern of refusing advances.
Try initiating sex verbally so that he has hours or even all day to anticipate bedtime. Is that television show getting boring? Try hitting pause, telling your man how much your appreciate him, kissing him deeply, and then resuming the show. You will be glad you did, and he will love the surprise.
4 Trust your husband
The flip side of being trustworthy is showing trust. When you communicate distrust, you erode the very foundation of your marriage. Showing trust can be easy.
Do not pick up his phone and check his texts. Do not log into his computer. When he wants to watch the game with the guys, play golf, or go hunting, be happy that he has a strong circle of friends.
5 Communicate
Do not keep secrets. Hiding things means that you either do not feel you can trust him or that you are embarrassed about something shameful. Maybe your secret is a lost piece of jewelry. Maybe you are afraid of discussing money. Little things can become big problems, so communicate with each other, especially when something has the potential to become a secret.
6 Enjoy companionable silence
Women average 20,000 words per day. Men average 7,000. There is a biological reason for the phenomenon, but do not use science as a crutch. Men need a little peace and quiet. Maintain your friendships with women with whom you can to talk. Most of all, remember that your man shows you how much he loves you more than he tells you.
7 Be grateful
Be grateful for your husband. Be grateful for your home. Be grateful for your jobs, children, and extended families. Women who want more – the latest fashions, the most beautifully decorated home, a luxury car – send a dissatisfied message that undermines love. Gratitude also gives your husband the respect that he craves.
8 Cook
It may sound like a cliché, but cooking some of your husband’s favorite foods is important. Cooking food for someone else causes you to think fondly about that person as you work, and enjoying a meal together is an intimate experience. Learning how to make his comfort foods shows that you care enough about his well-being to either conquer a difficult skill or veer from your usual menu.
9 Practice acceptance
If you really want to stand out as a wife, be a woman who does not try to change her man. Accept him the way his is right now. After all, you know you are not perfect either.
Accepting your husband is the ultimate way to show respect. Of course, the exceptions to this rule are situations involving verbal or physical abuse, addictions, and criminal activity.
10 Take care of yourself
Many times, both husbands and wives stop trying to be attractive after marriage, but this change is a mistake. If you loved him enough to marry him, then love him enough to put forth your best image. Stay healthy by eating right and exercising. Take the time to fix your hair and make-up. You will feel better about yourself and so will he.
It is not hard to be a great wife. All you really need to do is treat your husband with dignity. Attend to his needs and pay attention to what makes him happy. Communicate with him and develop an atmosphere of trust.
