You Have to Stop Comparing Yourself to His New Girlfriend No Matter What

Jul 19, 2017

So you broke up with the love of your life. It has happened to us all. As we sit and wallow over pints of ice cream, bottles of wine, droning on and on rehashing every detail large and small with our dearest circle of girlfriends, we try to make reason out of things that may never be fully clear to us.

For example, that new girlfriend of his. Who is she exactly? And what does she have that you don’t? Well, for starters, she has him. But before you go running for that box of tissues once again, know that you are so much better off without him.

I have been there too

I know what I am talking about. I have been there more times in my life than I would like to ever admit. And once social media blew up into every aspect of our lives, you better believe I was using it to check things out. Before that, my best friend and I would drive by and spy and make prank calls from landlines. Those were the days!

But I am here to tell you there is life after him and that you need to cease and desist immediately with comparing yourself to the new girlfriend that is now in every Instagram and Facebook photo he ever posts. Please hear my plea.

She obviously has worthy qualities

You can pick her apart and make fun of her clothes, her nail polish colors, how she styles her hair, and anything you wish, but that is catty and you know it. She has got some kind of redeeming quality to have attracted your ex and more than likely, she probably has plenty of similarities to you.

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She is not the enemy

You can sit there and hate her for all that she has, including him. Or you can realize that your ex and you are over and he has moved on. And you should try to move on too. In time, you will thank her because you will absolutely find someone better.

You are only hurting yourself

By obsessing over your ex and his new love, you are just deepening the wound and prolonging your healing. We never know what the future holds either. The worst breakup I ever had led to me making terrible boyfriend choices beyond that.

And now? That ex and I are close friends, and he makes a habit of telling me that the worst mistake of his life was ever letting me go. I would have been so much better off if I just worked through my grief properly without obsessing and moved forward into my future.

You deserve the love you keep trying to give everyone else

It does not matter what the new girlfriend is like. If she is prettier than you or not. If she is smarter or richer or funnier or any redeeming quality more or less than you.

The relationship with your ex ended for a reason and if that reason is not clear now, make your own closure and know that in the future, you will look back and clearly see why it did not work out.

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In the meantime, do not settle for someone who does not have what it takes to give you the love that you truly deserve. Believe me when I say there is someone out there with a heart that is as big as yours and ready to love you for the amazing woman you are.

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