5 Ways to Stop Beating Yourself Up Over Wrong Choices

Oct 16, 2017

We all make mistakes. We all make wrong choices in our lives. It is just part of being human, but how you handle your wrong choices makes a big difference in your outlook for the future. You can’t keep beating yourself up for the mistakes you make or you will never move past them. Try some of these ideas to help you move forward.

1 Evaluate the situation

First, take a good, hard look at the choice you made. Consider why you made the choice in the first place and then think about what you can do now to rectify or grow from the experience. If all it takes is for you to swallow your pride and apologize for something you did, then do it. If it requires more effort than that to change things, then commit to making that happen now. If it can’t be fixed, then move on to the next step.

2 Put it all into perspective

In order to stop beating yourself up for the mistake you made, you need to put things into perspective. If you can’t see clearly, ask someone to help you put it into the correct perspective so you can move forward from that.

Ask the following questions when trying to keep things in perspective:

  • What is the consequence of my actions?
  • Who has this affected?
  • What do I need to consider now?
  • What do I need to do now?
  • Do I need help from someone, or is this something I can tackle on my own?

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3 Change your thinking

The only way you can learn from your mistakes and turn them into positive experiences is to change your way of thinking. This is not an overnight fix. It will take practice and time to change your old way of thinking. Instead of focusing on the bad result of your choice, think about what you can do to make things better or right, and then, do it.

4 Change your behavior

You can’t move forward if you do not change your behavior right now. That way if you face another tempting situation where you could potentially make a bad choice, you will be able to say “no” in a strong, confident voice knowing that you did the right thing.

5 Learn from it and move on

When people beat themselves up over and over again, nothing is learned or gained from it. If you want to stop, learn from your mistakes and vow to move forward on a positive road.

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It is not easy to break old habits, especially when it comes to beating yourself up over mistakes you’ve made. But, you can do it with time and a commitment to overcome this behavior.

Be confident, knowing that you are trying to change something you have been doing over the course of a lifetime. Then, push forward and celebrate when you succeed in being your best friend rather than your worst enemy.